Confidence changes many forms, from the arrogance of Floyd Mayweather to the quiet self-assurance of Jane Goodall. True confidence—as opposed to the false confidence people try to hide their insecurities and fears—has a look all its own.
When we talk about confidence, one thing is clear: truly confident people always have the upper hand over the doubtful and the scared because they inspire others and they make things happen.
Urge to be confident is very important, but what is it that truly confident people do that sets them apart from everyone else?
I did some research to uncover the 12 pivotal habits of truly confident people so that you can incorporate these behaviours into your repertoire.
1. They Seek Their Happiness From Within
Happiness is a crucial element of confidence, because in order to be confident in what you do, you have to be happy with who you are and what ever you do.
People who are full of confidence derive their sense of pleasure and satisfaction from their inner, as opposed to what other people think of their accomplishments. They do not care what anyone says, one thing must be in your mind that you’re never as good or as bad as people say you are.
2. They Don’t Pass Judgement About Others
Confident people never pass judgement or useless comments on others because they know that everyone has something different, and they don’t need to take other people down a degree in order to feel good about themselves. Comparing yourself to other people is not a good thing. Confident people don’t waste time sizing people up and worrying about whether or not they asses to everyone they meet.
3. They Don’t Say Yes to Every Thing
Research conducted at the University of California in San Francisco shows that the more difficulty that you face saying no, that means you are experiencing stress, burnout, and even depression. Confident people know that saying no is of no harm, and they have the self-esteem to make their nos clear. When time comes to say no, confident people avoid phrases such as “I don’t think I can” or “I’m not certain.” They simply say no with confidence because they know that saying no to a new commitment values their existing commitments and gives them the chance to successfully fulfil them.
4. They Listen More And Speak Less
People with confidence listen more and they speak less because they don’t feel as though they have anything to prove. Confident people know that by actively and attentively listening to others, they certainly learn more and grow. Instead of seeing interactions as chances to prove themselves to others, they focus on the interaction itself, because they know that this is a far more pleasurable and productive approach to people.
5. They Speak With Sureness
It’s rare to hear the truly confident speak phrases such as “Um,” “I’m not sure,” and “I think.” Confident people speak certainly because they know that it’s difficult to get people to listen to you if you can’t convey your ideas with conviction.
6. They Win Small Victories
Confident people like to challenge themselves and compete themselves, even when their efforts based on small victories. Small victories build new androgen receptors in the areas of the brain responsible for victories and motivation. The increase in androgen receptors increases the influence of testosterone, which further enhances their confidence and urge to tackle future challenges. When you have a series of small victories, the boost in your confidence continue for months.
7. They Exercise Regularly
A study at the Eastern Ontario Research Institute revealed that people who exercised twice a week for 10 weeks felt more active socially, academically, and athletically. They also found their body image and self-esteem higher. Best of all, rather than the physical changes in their bodies being responsible for the upgrade in confidence, it was the quick, endorphin-fuelled positivity from exercise that made all the difference.
8. They Are Not Attention Seekers
People usually turned off by those who are attention seekers. Confident people know that being yourself is much more effective than trying to prove that you’re attractive. People judge your attitude quickly and are more attentive to the right attitude than what, or how many, people you know. Confident people always seem to bring the right attitude.
Confident people are experts of attention diffusion. When they’re receiving attention for an accomplishment, they quickly change the focus to all the people who worked hard to help get them there. They don’t want approval or praise because they draw their self-worth from within.
9. They Aren’t Afraid To Be Wrong
Confident people aren’t afraid to be proven wrong. They like putting their opinions out there to see if they hold up because they learn a lot from the times they are wrong and other people learn from them when they’re right. Self-assured people know what they are capable of and don’t treat being wrong as a personal slight.
10. They Cling To Their Necks Out
When confident people find an opportunity, they take it. Instead of being worry about what could go wrong, they ask themselves, “What’s stopping me? Why can’t I do that?” and they go for it. Fear doesn’t stop them back because they know that if they never try, they will never grow.
11. They Celebrate Their Relationships
Insecure people always doubt their relevance, and because of this, they try to steal the spotlight and pass fake judgements on others in order to prove their worth. Confident people, on the other hand, never bother about their relevance because they draw their self-worth from within. Instead of focusing inward with fears, confident people focus outward, which allows them to see all the best things that other people bring to the table. Admiring people for their contributions is a natural result of this.
12. They Never Hesitate To Ask For Help
Confident people know that asking other people for help isn’t any weaker or unintelligent act. They acknowledge their strengths and weaknesses, and they look to others to fill the gaps. They also know that getting knowledge from someone with more expertise is a great way to improve and develop.